Your feed is not a window onto the people you follow. It is a selection, and the selection leans angry.

Three studies show how the loop works. Posts about the other side get shared most. A feed ranked by engagement picks more of them than a plain, time-ordered one, though people say they want fewer. And the likes on an angry post nudge its author to write another.1, 2, 3

Anger at the other side travels

Researchers looked at 2.7 million posts by US news outlets and members of Congress. Posts about the other political side were shared about twice as often as posts about their own side. They also drew more of Facebook’s “angry” reactions.1

The ranking picks it

In 2023, 806 Twitter users let researchers compare two versions of their timeline. One was the first ten tweets the ranked feed would show them; the other, the ten most recent from accounts they follow. The ranked feed picked angrier tweets, more hostile to the other side. Readers felt worse about the other side after reading them.2

Asked tweet by tweet whether they wanted to see more like it, people rated the ranked feed’s picks slightly higher overall. For political tweets, they rated them lower. The authors conclude that the ranking seems to give people what they engage with, not what they say they want, “particularly when it comes to political content”.2

The likes reward it

When a Twitter user’s outraged posts drew more likes and retweets than usual, they posted more outrage the next day. Doubling the feedback went with only 2 to 3% more outrage. But the authors note that an effect like this “can easily scale” across a network.3

One caveat. These are studies of US politics on Twitter and Facebook, and the effects are modest. The second study’s authors also point to a 2023 study in which Facebook’s and Instagram’s ranking made no measurable difference to how polarised users felt.2

Try this

For the people you most want to hear from, use something where nothing is ranked and nothing is counted. Then a note from your sister is not competing with a stranger’s argument.

The group letters in the directory are a good place to start: no ranked feed, and no likes to count. Every card in the directory has a Feed row and a Likes row that say how each product handles this. We make one of them, DearAll, and it is marked as ours.